Find Effective Parenting Strategies IN... The Peace, No Arguments MindseT
and 50 Other Ways to
Achieve Positive Outcomes and Happiness
for Your Children and Family
David Solomon
The Peace, No Arguments Mindset
and 50 Other Ways to Achieve Positive Outcomes and Happiness for Your Children and Family
About the Book...
David Solomon is a dad who has developed comprehensive and worthwhile approaches to effective parenting while raising two adopted daughters who faced a myriad of challenges. The Peace, No Arguments Mindset: And 50 Other Ways to Achieve Positive Outcomes and Happiness for Your Children and Families is a parenting book for all parents.
Children, parents, and their families deserve a calm home and peace of mind. One of the major obstacles to achieving and enjoying peace are the inevitable arguments with and between children. The Peace, No Arguments Mindset will help parents with argument prevention and resolution and achieving positive outcomes to maintain the many benefits of harmony within the family. Free of negative outcomes, stress, and upset, your family can enjoy happiness and create and cherish wonderful memories.
Topics include:
What's important, More important and Most Important
Honesty is not the best policy – honesty is the only policy
Be slow to anger and quick to recovery.
While the principles and practices of The Peace No Arguments Mindset are primarily intended for discussions and interactions with children. David's life-tested strategies also apply to spouses, extended family, friends and colleagues.
(Please note: The spine of the book as pictured above is widened for clarity. 🙂 The book is 98 pages.)
About the Author...
David Solomon and his wife, Kathleen, adopted their daughters at ten and twelve years old from two different state departments of social services. Their daughters are now twenty-seven and thirty-one. In the intervening years, as a family, they have navigated the fallout from the severe abuse and neglect their daughters suffered prior to adoption – and the resulting profound negative emotional consequences and diagnoses.
David's philosophies, principles, and practices have been developed and shared with his daughters. He has learned a great deal about the challenges of parenting – and the additional challenges of caring for children adopted when they were older with pre-adoptive histories and traumas. Over the years, David has learned the intricacies of psychology and psychiatry as he strived to ensure the well-being of his daughters. With this lived experience and hard-won wisdom, he wants to help parents help their children and families.
Excerpt... Introduction
Peace. You, your children, and your family deserve to enjoy peace and peace of mind. Just thinking about it makes you feel great. However, one of the major obstacles to achieving and enjoying peace with your children is arguments. This book, and the Peace, No Arguments Mindset, will help you prevent and resolve arguments in order to achieve and maintain the many benefits of peace with your children and family, including creating and cherishing wonderful memories.
And there are many times throughout each day, including during discussions and interactions with your children, that can result in negative outcomes, stress, and upset. This book will also help you achieve positive outcomes, decrease stress, and enjoy happiness with your children and family throughout each day.
While the principles and practices are primarily intended for your discussions and interactions with your child, they also apply to your spouse, extended family, friends, colleagues, and subordinates (if any).
Avoiding arguments and enjoying peace with your spouse will greatly benefit you, your spouse, and your children.
Background
My wife Kathleen and I adopted our first daughter from a state Department of Social Services when she was 10 years old. She had suffered years of severe abuse and neglect, with profound negative, emotional consequences, and diagnoses. Our second daughter was 12 years old when we adopted her from the Department of Social Services of a different state. Our daughters are 31 and 27, respectively, at this time. Our first daughter still lives with us.
The book is based on my philosophies, principles, and practices that I have developed, and used and shared with our two daughters. And I have learned a lot about the challenges of parenting from parenting our daughters. These challenges include those “typical” of children growing up and the additional challenges of adopted children with their horrible, pre-adoption histories. In a way, over the years, I feel I have learned a lot about the intricacies of psychology and psychiatry.
Short, Right-to-the-Point (but Nicely) Book Format
A little story….
On Wednesday, November 18, 1863, President Abraham Lincoln traveled to the site of a major battle of the Civil War. He was there to speak at the dedication of the Gettysburg National Cemetery in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, the next day.
Edward Everett, the most famous orator of the time, gave a speech of approximately 13,000 words during the dedication. The speech was well received by the crowd of about 20,000 people. President Lincoln followed Mr. Everett. The president’s speech was only about 272 words.
The next day, in a letter to President Lincoln, Mr. Everett wrote, “I should be glad, if I could flatter myself, that I came as near to the central idea of the occasion in two hours, as you did in two minutes.”
https://www.harvardmagazine.com/2013/11/vita-edward-everett
This book has, very humbly, something in common with Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address. Both his monumental, historic speech and this book have a lot of information and meaning in a short, succinct, and nice right-to-the-point format.
The Beginning …
As you read this book, I believe you will be thinking and feeling, “This makes sense,” and “This will help make a positive difference for me, my children, and my family.”
And the first chapter is The Benefits of the Peace, No Arguments Mindset…
Ten of the Top Twenty-five Takeaways...
1. It’s all about The Positive Memories.
2. Of Body Language, Distance, Setting, Tone, and Volume, the three most important factors for a positive outcome to a discussion with your child, or anything you say to your child, are Tone, Tone, and Tone…… and Tone.
3. Your child’s “Lying Expression” speaks louder than his words.
4. Recognizing your child’s Triggers, known and unknown, is critical.
5. Do Not use Derogatory or Demeaning Words, they become the focus of the discussion.
6. Stop an argument with The Restart; Go for the Hug.
7. Your child's past behaviors are not necessarily prelude; his past behaviors are Context.
8. Help direct your child’s (the listener’s) brain.
9. Always do the Right Thing for the Right Reason.
10. Reality refocus phrases: It doesn’t matter. Don’t worry. It’s okay. No big deal. No problem. Let it go. Easy does it.
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